Rain Bennett

Right as Rain: Relief and Recovery

Well, here we go again. Eastern North Carolina is flooded with water, trees are down and homes are destroyed. But we will lace up our wading boots, dust off our shop-vacs and start to rebuild. Last Friday, I sat with my daughter on my couch with the television glued to the Weather Channel and my laptop glued to Facebook. You know that expression “It was like watching a train wreck in slow motion?” Well, it was just like that — except the train was Category 1 hurricane the size of the state of North Carolina. But it did seem...

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Right as Rain: At Home in a Hurricane

Hurricanes, for better for worse (usually for worse), are an inherent part of growing up in eastern North Carolina. Sometimes it means several days out of school that feels like an unexpected vacation, and sometimes it means going through all your toys and clothes, trying to find anything worth salvaging as you see pieces of your house scattered around the yard. Yet we still come back to the water. We rebuild our homes and we rebuild our hearts (which usually take longer), and we keep coming back. Because we know there is no place like it in the whole...

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Right as Rain: Fate and Friendship

My friend Xochi died yesterday. I’m drinking coffee this morning in a mug she made me from one of her paintings. We were in the middle of talks for producing a movie on the story of her life. It was a wild ride full of biker gangs, elopement, love, laughter, and cancer. Earlier this year, I started a 12-part short film series for the Carcinoid Cancer Foundation, a longtime client of mine. Each episode we focus on a different patient around the country suffering from neuroendocrine tumor, or NET — a rare form of incurable cancer that is often...

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Right as Rain: There Are Levels To This

Last week at the StartingBloc Institute, I was talking to a new friend about life, love and the pursuit of our passions. We were partnered up for a brief “get to know you” exercise that used questions like, “What’s a dream you’ve always had that you haven’t done yet?” to prompt the conversation. Like most interactions in this this five-day fellowship, we had taken the conversation deeper and talked about other fears and desires we had and what obstacles were in the way. She told me that despite being very focused on her career and having big plans for...

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Right as Rain: Starting to Break the Blocks

Two months ago, I reached out to a high school friend to congratulate him on a new job at a nonprofit. It was his dream job and he had wanted it for two years. I told him I was working with a lot of nonprofits lately and if his organization ever needed any help with storytelling that I’d be more than honored to be of service. He perked up immediately and told me about a Fellowship he was a member of called StartingBloc and how they were looking to tell the stories of their fellows. So off I went...

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Right as Rain: Why We Need Coaches

Last night I landed at RDU at 1:15 in the morning, two hours later than I was supposed to. I sat on the plane for two hours at the gate, bounced around in my cramped seat through the turbulent thunderstorm, and tried to squeeze in sleep between the sound of screaming kids. But even after all that, I hopped in my Lyft car to head back to Durham with a smile on my face. I’d just spent the past three days in Denver eating good food and going over my new business strategy with my coach, David. Between our...

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Right as Rain: The Stress Monster

Monday night, I woke up before my alarm clock and was immediately wide awake. I felt like it was close to my 5:00 a.m. wake up time, so I figured I’d just go ahead and get out of bed. I checked the clock first. It was 12:45 a.m. I tossed and turned for about 15 minutes but it was clear I wasn’t going to fall asleep anytime soon, so I changed locations and went to the couch in the living room. Same story. My mind was racing about projects I had to complete within a few small windows of...

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Right as Rain: The Danger of Anger

Last week I reached out to an old friend that I hadn’t seen or spoken to in over two years. In April of 2016, we’d gotten into a little spat and I tried to convince her to put it aside for one night and come see a local screening of my film. She had advised me several times during the editing process and I figured we could just discuss our argument the next week. When she didn’t show up, I was hurt. I was more than hurt; I was mad. I thought that she must have some kind of...

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Right as Rain: Foster the Impostor

Last summer I was eating “burnt ends” at a Kansas City BBQ restaurant and going over a new business plan with my coach/mentor. When discussing what to include on my website bio, he launched into “Two time Emmy-nominated filmmaker, Rain Bennett…” and I winced. “What was that?” he asked. “Well… “ I responded. “I don’t know, I kinda hate including that part. I mean, I didn’t win. Plus it was only a regional Emmy. Isn’t that kind of pretentious?” “Dude, that’s something to be incredibly proud of! And that’s something you should promote. It gives you credibility. But more...

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Right as Rain: Goals are Good… Sometimes

When I was sitting in my therapist’s office in 2009, he handed me a sheet with the list of different types of adult children of alcoholics. There were names like “The Scapegoat,” “The Lost Child,” and “The Mascot.” Then, I got to one called “The Family Hero” and it was like a lightbulb went off in my brain. This was the first time I had directly seen the effect my childhood had on my psychology. “The Family Hero” was the kid who excelled at everything to compensate for the constant failure of his home life. Bringing home a report...

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