Rain Bennett

Right as Rain: Goals are Good… Sometimes

When I was sitting in my therapist’s office in 2009, he handed me a sheet with the list of different types of adult children of alcoholics. There were names like “The Scapegoat,” “The Lost Child,” and “The Mascot.” Then, I got to one called “The Family Hero” and it was like a lightbulb went off in my brain. This was the first time I had directly seen the effect my childhood had on my psychology. “The Family Hero” was the kid who excelled at everything to compensate for the constant failure of his home life. Bringing home a report...

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Right as Rain: Hold Fast, But Don’t Break It

“What are we getting for breakfast?” my mom asked. I didn’t want to answer, because I knew it would open a whole new can of worms. And I couldn’t even eat the can of worms if I wanted to, because I was fasting. “I’m not eating breakfast today, I’m fasting.” I replied. An awkward silence grew throughout the car. I think my mom and my brother were trying to figure out if I was serious or not — they could never tell. “You’re what?!” she asked. “That’s not good for you. That’s not healthy, you should definitely eat breakfast....

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Right as Rain: Green with Envy, Gold with Love

I’m not sure if we’ve all experienced this, but I’m hoping it’s not just me. Have you ever looked at a friend or colleague’s photo on Instagram and just think, “Ugh, she/he is so lucky.” or “How come they get to do that?” We may even say to ourselves, “I should be doing something like that.” Even if we don’t say it, that’s probably what we’re thinking. I used to be terrible about looking at what my peers were doing from afar and finding myself feeling envious. If I’m being honest, I still struggle with it sometimes. We live...

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Right as Rain: Discipline Equals Freedom

Lately, I’ve been struggling with juggling all my tasks and I think I’ve found (part of) the problem. I am not doing a good job of prioritizing and I have deviated from my routine — mostly because I’ve been on the road for three weeks straight. As a creative, sometimes we convince ourselves that we need the freedom to flow through our days and our lives, so that we can be ready for the random moment where inspiration might strike. But what I’ve realized, through the teachings of people like Navy Seal-turned-author and influencer, Jocko Willink, is that “Discipline...

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Right as Rain: Off the Grid

Last week, I took my girlfriend and our daughter on our first family vacation. I set an outgoing message on my email and my texts and I purposely threw my phone is a drawer. I’d been traveling the week before and was headed back on the road the week after, so I needed a break from the noise. I also wanted to truly be in the moment with my loved ones. Like most people these days, I stay tethered to my phone and can be seen during almost any activity with a downward curve in my neck and a...

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Right as Rain: In the Line of Fathers

About a month ago, I was cutting up squash on the kitchen island, prepping for a nice dinner. Maya was feeding our new baby girl Bellamy in the living room. We had just finished making some vacation plans for my upcoming birthday and she called out to me with a question I was not prepared to answer. “Hey babe? What do you want to do for Father’s Day this year?” For a moment, I was confused. Why would she ask me that? Why would we make plans for that day? I hadn’t celebrated that day in 10 years, since...

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Right as Rain: Speaking from the Heart

It was 30 minutes before the start of the Toastmasters meeting and I was still sitting on the couch, looking for any reason not to go. It was Saturday. I was tired. I’d rather go get brunch. Blah blah blah. I was scared. My girlfriend noticed the time on the clock and asked me if I was still going. I told her I didn’t think so because I just kind of wanted to relax and enjoy my weekend morning. “Hmmm,” she said as she refilled her coffee. “It’s not like you to be lazy.” That was all it took....

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Right as Rain: Fear of Failure

Let’s be real. Nobody wants to fail. We are all egotistical beings and many times a failure, or what we perceive as a failure, large or small, can be devastating to our self-esteem. Sometimes the fear of failure in us is so crippling that it actually prevents us from even trying to accomplish a particular goal. But lately it seems like the term “failure” has become quite a buzzword with the attempt to flip the term on its head and instead use it to propel one to success. I’m sure you’ve heard the expressions like John C. Maxwell’s “failing...

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Right as Rain: It’s Never Too Late

Two weeks ago, I sent my mom a Mother’s Day card with this beautiful picture of her and my daughter, her first grandchild, when she was just two days old. The card talked about how I see all the things my mom did for me in a different light now that I am a parent. It was perfect. And it’s so true. Even though my daughter is only six weeks old, it’s clear to me how much my mom sacrificed for my brother Beau and me — all while never carving her own career path, dealing with an alcoholic...

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Right as Rain: The Culture of a Company

If you’d asked me a few years ago what I knew about Lululemon, I probably would have responded, “I like their yoga pants” with a smirk like I was the first guy to make that stupid joke. Honestly, I don’t think I’d even set foot in one of their stores. But when I started working at Sync Studio in Durham, the assistant manager Sam worked part time at the Lululemon in Southpoint Mall and invited some of her coworkers to take my class. I had personally trained Sam for a few weeks and she thought the Lulu team would...

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