Dr. Tina Lepage

Parenting Page: It Takes a Village – Of Perspectives

This is a parenting page, about parenting Page. I am a child psychologist and a mother. So I specialize in children, yet I am human, thus I am full of knowledge and yet as full of emotions as any other parent. So I decided to write this Parenting Page since it might be informative and funny for others to take an insider look at a child specialist raising her child. I also wanted to create a way to show Page when she grows up, if she chooses to have children, a real-life view of the experience. IT TAKES A VILLAGE – OF PERSPECTIVES One year, Page broke her arm in two places a few days before Thanksgiving. One break was pretty bad, the other minor; she was in a lot of pain for over 24 hours until the pain medication was stabilized. At Thanksgiving dinner my sister asked me how Page had broken her arm, and I told her I didn’t know yet. I had asked Page but she refused to tell me. I explained I was pretty sure she was just too traumatized by the experience to talk about it yet. My sister, a school teacher, laughed at me. She said, “She isn’t too traumatized to talk! She was using those monkey bars in a way they shouldn’t be used and doesn’t want to tell you!” Psychologist perspective…...

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Parenting Page: Sports & Fashion

This is a parenting page, about parenting Page. I am a child psychologist and a mother. So I specialize in children, yet I am human, thus I am full of knowledge and yet as full of emotions as any other parent. So I decided to write this Parenting Page since it might be informative and funny for others to take an insider look at a child specialist raising her child. I also wanted to create a way to show Page when she grows up, if she chooses to have children, a real-life view of the experience. Sports & Fashion In elementary school Page had the same response when being asked if she wanted to join a soccer team or a basketball team: “Why would I do that?! The outfits are not pretty!” Oh. Well there’s an angle I hadn’t thought of. She went on to explain that she liked being on the swim team because you get to wear bathing suits which are attractive, she liked running because you could buy pretty running clothes, and she liked karate because the gi (i.e., karate uniform) looked really cool. So as a parent I had to ask myself, “Is this criterion upon which I should allow her to make a decision about sports?” It seemed pretty flimsy as criteria. But it is true to her personality. From preschool she was designing...

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Parenting Page: Shake That Fist and Lean In

This is a parenting page, about parenting Page. I am a child psychologist and a mother. So I specialize in children, yet I am human, thus I am full of knowledge and yet as full of emotions as any other parent. So I decided to write this Parenting Page since it might be informative and funny for others to take an insider look at a child specialist raising her child. I also wanted to create a way to show Page when she grows up, if she chooses to have children, a real-life view of the experience. I hope you enjoy these stories and musings. SHAKE THAT FIST AND LEAN IN This past week the new book Lean In got a lot of attention. I haven’t read it yet but the premise appears to be that in part women still don’t hold more leadership roles because they don’t ‘lean in’ to promote themselves into such positions. Rather women lean back for practical reasons such as planning to raise children, and for personality reasons such as having to handle being disliked and not being comfortable being disliked. To the latter, research shows women in leadership roles are disliked by both genders far more than men in leadership roles. As the mother of a girl this type of thing really gets my attention. I want Page to have every opportunity and it...

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Parenting Page: Brainwashing

This is a parenting page, about parenting Page. I am a child psychologist and a mother. So I specialize in children, yet I am human, thus I am full of knowledge and yet as full of emotions as any other parent. So I decided to write this Parenting Page since it might be informative and funny for others to take an insider look at a child specialist raising her child. I also wanted to create a way to show Page when she grows up, if she chooses to have children, a real-life view of the experience. I hope you enjoy these stories and musings. Brainwashing I’m a fan of brainwashing children. We really only get these few years where they’ll (perhaps) believe anything we tell them. People like to call these attempts at influence by kinder gentler names, but I like to call a spade a spade, and it seems to me trying to put ideas in another human being’s head so they think like you (i.e., hold your values, beliefs, choices, etc.) is brainwashing. Which I totally support. 🙂 I was happy to see at age eight that some of my brainwashing appeared to be effective!! Page loves to play games over meals, and we were playing 20 questions. I was trying to guess a person she had chosen. When we narrowed it down to a boy in...

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Parenting Page: Olive Oil & Baptism

This is a parenting page, about parenting Page. I am a child psychologist and a mother. So I specialize in children, yet I am human, thus I am full of knowledge and yet as full of emotions as any other parent. So I decided to write this Parenting Page since it might be informative and funny for others to take an insider look at a child specialist raising her child. I also wanted to create a way to show Page when she grows up, if she chooses to have children, a real-life view of the experience. I hope you enjoy these stories and musings.   OLIVE OIL & BAPTISM (an odd combination…)   Rituals are great. They bring families and communities together… and also provide fodder for humor! Especially when marital partners come from different cultures and try to make sense of the way other culture does things.   When Page turned one-year-old we went to Greece for two weeks, to baptize Page and have her meet the extended Greek clan (my husband is Greek-American). Page was baptized in the same church that Peter and I did our Greek wedding in, a lovely little church overlooking the ocean. The same priest presided, a real character who told Peter during our Greek wedding ceremony that he could “use to lose a kilo or two,” and during Page’s baptism flirted shamelessly...

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Parenting Page: Learning To Swear

This is a parenting page, about parenting Page. I am a child psychologist and a mother. So I specialize in children, yet I am human, thus I am full of knowledge and yet as full of emotions as any other parent. So I decided to write this Parenting Page since it might be informative and funny for others to take an insider look at a child specialist raising her child. I also wanted to create a way to show Page when she grows up, if she chooses to have children, a real-life view of the experience. I hope you enjoy these stories and musings. (They will not go in any chronological order FYI, and all names except immediate family have been changed.) Learning To Swear When Page was about three years old my friend Ingrid and I were driving with Page to Ingrid’s beach house. It was about a three-hour drive and Page was getting bored. In particular she had tired of our music and started asking for her music to be played. But the reality was we had played kid music for a good bit of the trip and had not been switched to a regular radio station for very long when Page started complaining. Complaining soon moved into whining when I repeatedly said ‘no.’ I explained it was our turn to pick the music for a while...

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Parenting Page: Winning Isn’t Everything

This is a parenting page, about parenting Page. I am a child psychologist and a mother. So I specialize in children, yet I am human, thus I am full of knowledge and yet as full of emotions as any other parent. So I decided to write this Parenting Page since it might be informative and funny for others to take an insider look at a child specialist raising her child. I also wanted to create a way to show Page when she grows up, if she chooses to have children, a real-life view of the experience. I hope you enjoy these stories and musings. (They will not go in any chronological order FYI, and all names except immediate family have been changed.)   Winning Isn’t Everything One day when Page was about four-years-old she and a friend were playing upstairs. I could hear them having a series of races down the hallway, which Page kept losing. (Apparently at times I allow running inside the house, but this story isn’t about those questionable choices…) After about 20 minutes of racing and losing, Page came downstairs to get me. Frustrated she exclaimed, “Mom, can you tell Yvette it’s my turn to win! I tried to tell her it’s my turn but she won’t listen and keeps beating me!” I explained to Page that winning doesn’t work like that; there are no...

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