When Orange County created its Economic Development Districts in the early 1990’s, the purpose was to designate non-residential zones that would serve “for the next fifty years.” The districts were created along interstate highways to benefit from obvious transportation advantages. Orange County, with its support for quality education and environmental awareness, provides a great place for employers and employees to live and work. However, nearly twenty years later, virtually no activity has occurred in the Economic Development Districts.
Therefore, the Board of Commissioners has recently begun to modify policies to better support business growth – both new and existing – in the county. We have adopted a Unified Development Ordinance (UDO) and are in the process of amending regulations to make Orange County more competitive. We’ve revised Land Use designations. We’ve zoned property for business use and we’ve provided incentives to support expansion of an existing business.
The primary reason for the lack of activity, however, has been the lack of necessary infrastructure – water and sewer – that companies require for any site to make the first cut as a viable location. Investment now in water and sewer lines in the Economic Development Districts will make us competitive in the global business market, and will pay dividends in new taxable property, new sales tax revenue, and most importantly, in new opportunities to work and shop in Orange County.
We have the will, and with the approval by the voters of the ¼-cent local sales tax, we will have the means. Please come out to vote on November 8, and please vote “FOR” the ¼-cent tax.
Steve F. Yuhasz
Vice-Chair, Orange County Board of Commissioners
Gay marriage a deviation from the biblical ideal? Really? Read the Bible. The biblical ideal of marriage is one man, lots of wives, concubines, bride prices and arranged marriages. Is this what we are defending?
If our society’s ideas of marriage have changed, why are some so intent on returning to the past? The past is not what I want to return to.
If our legislature wants to do something to defend marriage, can we not do something about the 50 % divorce rate? My concern is less the parents than the kids who now have to live with a lower standard of living, less well supervised, in two separate household, often with confusing and conflict-filled relationships. That’s a problem I’d like to see tackled. That is what I think of when I think of the benefits of defending marriage.
In reading this suggestion, do you think: How can we dissuade people from digging in and making a marriage work when they have decided it won’t? The heart is a mysterious thing. From the earliest history parents and other authority figures have tried to control who people love and marry. Great literature is written about the failure to control who people fall in love with and how they fall out of love.
We should remember this when considering marriage between adults. Let us accept this mystery and support its success.http://chapelboro.com/columns/the-commentators/god-save-us-from-the-biblical-marriage-ideal
Every politician is the object of critical, unfriendly, and just plain bad comments. That is the rule.
This T.W.O. Cents Column is in response to“It’s a Theory That’s Out There” – from Common Science, by Jeff Danner.
You ask what people, and especially politicians, mean when they say “no” to science, and particularly evolution. I believe it is because people compartmentalize their understanding.
Science is perceived to be the first step toward engineering, toward control. That’s great for cell phones and rockets. Evolution is about sex and death. The perception of science’s connection to engineering means that evolution is the first step to controlling who has sex and who dies, and that it’s not going to be the way our parents did it. This perception is not wholly without foundation: eugenics was a “scientific” idea – and now we’re trying to figure out reparations. Birth control and abortion have shaped behavior in a way that horrifies traditional communities. You’re probably not familiar with the details of nuclear weapon detonation. For similar reasons, many think that teaching human evolution is a questionable idea.
Human evolution is on the wrong time scale for the 24 hour news cycle.
A six thousand year time scale fits better with most people’s imagination than a 13.7 billion year history. It is disturbing to many that human beings (the ones that matter, anyway) might be importantly different from the ones described in sacred texts.
Philosophy and religion are not studied in our schools, and therefore when most people seek capital T Truth, they look to sacred traditions that have often become quite parochial, and many of those traditions have no trouble believing creation to have been so polluted by Satan that false evidence (e.g., fossils) permeates the world the way evil desires permeate the soul.
If you, as I, think that capital T Truth includes evolution, then we must first talk about Truth, and then we have to connect evolution to what people value – even if they think they value something more than Truth, which may sometimes be safety, sometimes compassion, and in a few sad cases, simple comfort or fleeting power.
It might be quite a departure for a “science” column.http://chapelboro.com/columns/the-commentators/its-not-obdurate-stupidity-response-to-common-science
I know a lot of people in England think the Royals are obsolete. But I love them. Scratch that – I love Kate Middleton. Er, Duchess Catherine. Whatever.
That’s the woman I want to dress like.
Her style is SO timeless that it’s almost a blank slate. Kate gives the modern twentysomething a classy template with which to work with. Her looks can be boho-ed up, bedazzled or casualized depending on your personal style. And budget.
New York Fashion Week agrees- keep an eye out for pieces that scream Middelton in stores. They’re everywhere. And it’s awesome! Nothing wrong with a twentysomething woman with sophistication.
Of course, not everyone can sport a 4389025 carat sapphire on their left hand or a Burberry trench coat. But that’s not all Kate wears- she shops at places like Zara that really aren’t too expensive. Comparable to Banana Republic, maybe.
Parents… who do you want your 15 year old to think about when she goes shopping? Kim Kardashian… or Duchess Catherine?
What do you think about Kate’s style?http://chapelboro.com/columns/the-twentysomething-brain/i-wanna-be-a-replikate
Something happens when your kids go back to school. Your life, if you’re a stay-at-home mom or dad, becomes a conveyor belt. You, your kids get up, eat, they leave for school, you restore your house to some sort of order, volunteer, do some contractual work, they return from school, eat, do homework, and eat some more. Then everybody goes back to bed.
It starts to get boring, and the boredom is relentless. It pushes you to do something, anything. What to do on the cheap? Wrightsville Beach is three hours away. Surf, walk, order pizza — and relax by the water.http://chapelboro.com/columns/whole-living/unrestrained-joy
“Girlfriend, you won’t believe what I just heard. Don’t tell anybody, but …” How many of us thrive on hearing the ‘dirt’ about others? It’s called gossip and man, oh, man can it be fun to be the first to know.
The down side is gossip damages the reputation of the person being gossiped about, and to a lesser degree, damages the reputation of the person who spreads it. Gossip can be entertaining when it passes long positive and interesting information, but is dangerous when it demeans or endangers another person’s character. Once you develop a reputation as a gossip within your company, those in positions of leadership will avoid giving you sensitive, confidential, and timely information and you will be shunned by those in circles of power and influence.
Gossip takes away from the business at hand and steals time and productivity from your company as surely as stealing money from the office’s petty cash drawer.
Gossiping becomes a habit like any other daily behavior. While the image of people enjoying congenial chats around the proverbial water cooler may conjure up pictures of laughter and harmony among your associates, it’s not always that way. As soon as someone in your group begins maliciously gossiping about people in your office, they take the chance of damaging their career as well as the person being gossiped about; that is when gossip becomes an unacceptable professional behavior and a major etiquette faux pas.
There are times when passing along some salacious tidbit about someone seems too tempting to keep to yourself, so you whisper it with a conspiratorial admonition, “Don’t tell anyone, but…” After three or four people have shared the same information, the original story gets diluted by half truths and exaggerations and invariable some gets hurt.
People gossip about others because they think that having information and passing along hot scoops gives them some sort of power only known to insiders.
Do Men Gossip?
Surprise, surprise, surprise! Men are just as guilty of gossip as women, sometimes being worse. Women are more skilled than men at making gossip entertaining. A study found that 33 percent of men indulge in gossip almost every day, compared with 26 percent of women. What do men like to gossip about? According to Sharon Supriya, a famous Indian researcher, men gossip as much as women about colleagues they would like to go to bed with and (shock) they are interested in talking about potential girlfriends and sexual rivals, even those who already have a girlfriend or partner. Men also spend more time talking about themselves than women. They call the conversation ‘networking.’ Men mostly gossip with work colleagues, and female friends; women prefer to “dish dirt” primarily with female friends and relatives.
Men gossip about work, politics or other highbrow topics less than 5 percent of the time, unless women are present.
Men and women love to read, watch and talk about celebrity gossip. Men love to watch gossip shows. If you don’t believe it, think about ESPN. It is the gossip heaven for men.
Gossiping about others also keeps an individual from looking at themselves and their own life. Those who gossip may be bored, petty, immature, or just nasty people who enjoy passing along information about other people’s weaknesses, foibles, and idiosyncrasies. They need an audience to satifsy their desire to draw attention to themselves as they trash others. Listening and providing such people with an audience makes you guilty of having the same weak character they have.
Benefits of Gossip
There are many articles on the net that talk about ill effects of gossips and the plight of gossip victims. However, do you know that there is a place for gossip? Scholars say that gossip fulfills an important role in our daily interactions and it is essential for human survival as gossip unites people, calms them, warns about bad behavior and even entertains them.
Gossip is a social skill, not a character flaw (unless a person is really socially on tilt). It’s only when you don’t do it well that you get into trouble. However that doesn’t give us the freedom to talk anything about anybody. One has to keep in mind to watch what he or she says about others because you would not want false information floating about you the next day.
From an etiquette standpoint, if you want to look poised and professional at all times, keep yourself above the gossip fray.http://chapelboro.com/columns/comfortable-etiquette/hush-your-mouth
Five Hassle-Free Ways to Save Moneyby Laura AdamsSaving money doesn’t have to be difficult, but it does require you to scrutinize your expenses. Here are 5 tips for hassle-free ways to cut costs and save money:Tip #1: Update Your BankingShop around for a better checking or savings account that pays you more interest and charges zero fees. The best bank accounts reimburse ATM fees, never charge for debit cards or paper checks, have no minimum balance requirement, offer free online bill pay, and are FDIC-insured. Find a high-yield account at sites like checkingfinder.com and depositaccounts.com.Tip #2: Optimize Credit Card DebtWhy pay more interest that you absolutely have to? If you’re carrying a balance on a high interest credit card, learn more about moving it to a less expensive card or using a balance transfer card to save hundreds or thousands of dollars in interest each year. Search for money-saving credit cards at sites like nerdwallet.com and creditcards.com.Tip #3: Cut Household ExpensesTake a hard look at what household expenses can be reduced or eliminated. Here are some ideas:· Ditch your telephone land line and go cellular· Find options for lower-priced TV packages or cancel your paid service altogether· Always cook with a microwave oven when you can (they use much less power than a traditional oven)· Watch your thermostat so it stays close to 78 degrees or above in the summer· Invest in energy-efficient appliances when you need to replace an old oneTip #4: Keep Your CarCars are rotten investments that leave you poorer, not richer. Make a commitment to keep your car for at least 5 years and then to buy a used vehicle that’s in good condition.Tip #5: Automate Your SavingsA smart way to set money aside is to use a preset payroll deduction to invest in a workplace retirement account. You can also ask your employer to split your check into multiple direct deposits so a portion of your paycheck goes into a savings account. If you’re self-employed, use online banking to set up a recurring transfer to deposit money into a high-interest savings account or an Individual Retirement Arrangement (IRA)
“Well, honey, my grandmama always told me that a lady only offers the tips of her fang-gahs to shake hands with a gentleman.” The woman gently lifted her manicured fingers and held them mid-air to demonstrate her point to me. This Southern Belle sat smugly during a workshop I was leading, determined that the South shall rise again, starting with her diminutive hand demonstrating a lady’s proper handshake.
I prayed the look on my face did not betray my sarcastic thought which was, “Listen, Scarlett. That advice may have gotten you through your cotillion, but in today’s business world, no one would take you or your handshake seriously. Who would want to do business with a woman who only offers the “tips of her fang-gahs?”
Business has become the great equalizer for women as it relates to etiquette. Over time, I’ve come to knffective handshakes help people make a positive first impression. As with fainting couches and parasols, gone are the days when a gentleman had to wait for a lady to offer her hand for a handshake. Women are now expected to offer their hand (whether sitting down or standing up) to demonstrate confidence and equality. Whoever offers the hand first for a handshake holds the power. By power, I mean control of the encounter. Women can use techniques to start and maintain power in various business greeting scenarios.
In America there are two kinds of greeters: Hand shakers and huggers. In social situations, a woman has more power to pick and choose when she wants to give or receive hugs. Business situations are awkward when she becomes the target of unwanted hugs.
Here are two tips to avoid a dreaded hug:
1. When a known hugger is approaching, a woman should plant her foot about 12 inches in front of her body, extend her arm as if she has a steel rod inserted from her wrist to her shoulder, and force the hugger to shake hands and stay off of her body.
2. The second tip is to position her body so that instead of being swept up in a hug, she maintains control by moving her right shoulder into the hugger’s right shoulder. She can gently pat the hugger on the back if she chooses. These two actions may take some practice, but are well-worth it because of the importance of maintaining power.
Fortunately (or unfortunately depending on point of view) some etiquette protocols taught to us by our parents have been altered because of the equalization of men and women in business. At a social meal, for example, a gentleman is expected to rise from his chair when a lady approaches or leaves the table. That rule still prevails, but only in a social situation. At a business meal, however, the gentleman is not expected to acknowledge the lady’s presence by rising. Nor should the gentleman hold the chair for the lady as she takes her seat. A woman should not feel “put out” because Grandma taught her to expect such proper behavior. Times have changed.
I always hear women ask this question. “What do you do when facing a man during a conversation, and he constantly stares at your breasts regardless of whether you are wearing a low cut blouse or not?”
Once again, this is about power. The woman has to subtly gain control. My answer? Cross your arms across your breasts and keep them there. That action breaks the line of vision, puts up a protective barrier and let’s the gentleman know in a quiet way that his staring is unacceptable. Bear in mind that such a stare could be considered a form of sexual harassment. The second a woman feels uncomfortable, she must take control immediately.
Another solution is to move to the man’s side and face the direction he is facing. Continue the conversation as if your move is totally natural. Keep control.
Etiquette is a differentiator between insecurity and poise. These few examples show how a business woman need not concern herself with feeling victimized because of the uncomfortable actions of others. Knowing proper etiquette lets a woman focus on business and not feeling left in the lurch about do’s and don’ts.
Let Miss Scarlett offer the tips of her fing-gahs. Today’s business person learns and applies etiquette to maintain the power.http://chapelboro.com/columns/comfortable-etiquette/its-not-your-grandmothers-etiquette