By Dr. Tina Lepage Dr. Tina Lepage is the owner of Lepage Associates Solution-Based Psychological & Psychiatric Services, a group practice in S. Durham/RTP, Chapel Hill and Raleigh. She lives in Chapel Hill with her husband, daughter, and two dogs.
  • Parenting Page: Navigating Name Calling

    August 14, 2014 at 6:00 am

    I don’t recall at what age Page and her friends started calling one another names, and even though name-calling was pretty rare among she and her friends, like many life lessons “no name calling” had to be taught and re-taught. I guess this shouldn’t be any surprise given that some adults regularly engage in calling one another unsavory names directly, and a good number of others do so behind the person’s back.

  • Parenting Page: Getting Outed

    July 15, 2014 at 6:00 am

    Kids learn a lot of things at school and summer camps. Not necessarily the things you want them to learn. Oh, I don’t mean things they shouldn’t be doing kind of stuff… I mean, they learn information you may have been keeping from them…

  • Parenting Page: Verbal Skills As A Parent-Control Tool

    June 16, 2014 at 9:28 am

    Great verbal skills are a good thing, right? Well, mostly. Until you realize your child can run circles around you in their chase to get what they want. Pair verbal skills with persistence and the person is pretty powerful. Add to that the parents of our generation who have been socialized to listen intently to their children, and the child may as well be the ruler of the world… well, or at least your world and theirs.

  • Parenting Page: Pretending To Be Asleep (And Other Avoidance Tactics)

    May 9, 2014 at 6:00 am

    If you’re a parent, you know you’ve done it. Oh, you’ve done it many times over many years, most likely. You have shamelessly pretended to be asleep so either 1) your spouse would go tend to the child, or 2) your child would go away and leave you alone. Breathe easy; you are not alone. We spend endless hours, often over many years, dreaming and talking about how wonderful life will be once we have children… then we spend much energy trying to avoid childcare.

  • Parenting Page: Easter at the White House

    April 18, 2014 at 6:00 am

    Easter was the first holiday to follow Page learning that there was no Santa. Which, as you know, once the Santa-talk happens the whole house of cards comes tumbling down… no Easter Bunny, no Tooth Fairy, etc. Mostly she was OK about it, but she did wonder aloud how holidays could still be fun anymore.

  • Accepting Your Child As-Is

    March 4, 2014 at 9:44 am

    Every parent knows to say that they accept their child just as they are. Most parents also want to believe that. Yet they have their list of ways they openly or secretly wish their child were different. Oh, it might be a really short list or it might be a very long list, but the list exists. Some parents feel a great deal of guilt about having these thoughts. Fear not! It’s perfectly normal to not think your child is perfect. And parenting has an inherent conflict built in, since we are supposed to love and accept our child as-is, yet we are also supposed to mold and shape the child, raising our children to be kind, intelligent, self-sufficient, law-abiding citizens.

  • Parenting Page: Navigating The First Crush

    February 14, 2014 at 10:40 am

    I remember my first crush very well. It was in kindergarten, and his name was Michael. I used to chase Michael on the playground and he would let me catch him, which as we all knew meant he liked me too. Well, either that or I had fallen for a poor runner.

  • Parenting Page: Pacifier Wars

    January 23, 2014 at 9:47 am

    All was well with the world, until we had to wean her off the pacifier.

  • Modeling And Messaging

    January 2, 2014 at 9:27 am

    I have often joked to others and myself over the years with regard to parenting that, hey, no pressure, but you are now the primary role model for a developing human being. You are their role model for what it means to be a good person (good spouse, good daughter/son, good worker, good friend, etc.). Right, no pressure!

  • Parenting Page: The Santa Talk

    December 12, 2013 at 6:00 am


    This is a question all parents prepare for. It can be a daunting moment, having to out oneself for years of deception, and explain the delicate line between make-believe and a lie, along with not wanting to see your child saddened by the truth. To explore this dilemma so many families face, first I will tell you a story, and then I will share what I think is some good general advice on this topic. This is a true story.