By Dr. Tina Lepage Dr. Tina Lepage is the owner of Lepage Associates Solution-Based Psychological & Psychiatric Services, a group practice in S. Durham/RTP, Chapel Hill and Raleigh. She lives in Chapel Hill with her husband, daughter, and two dogs.
  • Parenting Page: Passing Sex Ed

    September 15, 2015 at 10:25 am

    The kids all knew at the end of 5th grade there would be a unit on sex education. Their first-ever serious glance into s-e-x. Some knew a little about sex, others knew nothing. As the time approached for the unit to begin, I told Page one night I was going to tell her about sex in more detail than she and I had discussed before. She knew about ovaries and menstruation and such, and a little about the egg needing to be fertilized by sperm, but not much else. I thought she would like to be informed in advance and not be surprised in class. Well, I was wrong. She adamantly protested “NO!” saying she would learn about it at school. I asked if she wouldn’t rather be in-the-know in the classroom, as surely some kids would be. Still, N-O. So I let her alone to learn about the specifics at school.

  • Parenting Page: Creating False Memories

    July 30, 2015 at 10:18 am

    One day when Page was about three-and-a-half years old, arriving home after an afternoon of errands I put the groceries away only to turn around and find Page with marker all over her hands and marker stains all over my couch! (Truth be told these situations are less daunting than when I was growing up, because as a parent I only allowed washable markers and crayons into my home. Great invention!)

  • Parenting Page: The Importance of Simplicity

    June 15, 2015 at 10:00 am

    The recent tragic death of a child about my daughter’s age has me thinking about day to day life – how we go through motions that seem mundane, yet should we lose the opportunity for the mundane we would deeply mourn those hum-drum days. Because those typical, nothing-out-of-the-ordinary days are actually filled with connection and love. Upon reflection, when our children grow up and move away, we can look back at seemingly uninteresting rituals of an average day and see how brimming they were with meaning.

  • Parenting Page: The Underside Of Motherhood

    May 13, 2015 at 5:00 am

    A couple of weeks ago in staff meeting, one of the clinicians was sharing her weekly update and describing the current hellish evening routine as her young son tantrums and is overall unpleasant. Interspersed with her vivid descriptions of trying to hold a difficult child with one arm and cook dinner for the family with the other hand, she would pause to say, “Oh, but being a mother is great.” Then back to reality and another description of how awful it is right now, followed by the disclaimer, “I know this sounds horrible, and it is right now, but really, it’s not that bad, I love being a mom.”

  • Parenting Page: Vacationing with Children

    March 12, 2015 at 5:00 am

    Each year we enter spring, the time for spring break vacation and for planning summer vacations. Finding a family vacation that works for everyone isn’t always easy. A child adds a whole new aspect to vacationing. Now you have people of vastly different ages – adults and children – trying to enjoy the same vacation. Our first vacation alone with Page (i.e., without Peter’s mother) was when Page was about a year and a half old. We went to the beach, and were soon staring at each other exhausted, saying, “How is this a vacation?” Awake at 6am after a previous of day of entertaining a child all day at the beach with all of the accompanying paraphernalia of beach toys, diaper bag, and snacks that come with a child, it seemed like work and not relaxation! Gone were the lazy beach days drinking various alcohol-infused drinks with umbrellas, and leisurely strolls along the shore.

  • Parenting Page: Navigating Terrible Tween TV

    January 22, 2015 at 10:05 am

    Finding appropriate television shows for tweens to watch was a challenge for me. When Page was a child, she was allowed to watch the Disney channel, and all was well with the world. The shows geared toward the preschool to about 8 to 10-year-old crowd were great. Funny, interesting, and taught life lessons and skills such as math, geography, etc. in a fun way. When Page outgrew those, she started watching the Disney channel shows and other channels geared toward tweens and early teens. In my opinion, these shows were awful! Primarily because the kids were all mouthy. They had horrible attitudes and were just not nice. Very sassy, disrespectful, rude kids

  • Parenting Page: Being Thankful

    November 25, 2014 at 5:00 am

    Recently I was at a business retreat where the question was raised about how we are teaching our children about money. I don’t think I have a good answer. As parents we all struggle with how to give children an appreciation for money. “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” my parents used to tell me. “You have to work for what you get in life.” “Waste not, want not.” “Be thankful.” We have an entire holiday focused on being thankful!

  • Parenting Page: (Little) Kids Say The Strangest Things

    September 23, 2014 at 5:00 am

    Young children are not exactly the best reporters of events, as they at times mix reality and fantasy, miss the bigger picture, or say things we really can never figure out where they ever came up with.

  • Parenting Page: Navigating Name Calling

    August 14, 2014 at 6:00 am

    I don’t recall at what age Page and her friends started calling one another names, and even though name-calling was pretty rare among she and her friends, like many life lessons “no name calling” had to be taught and re-taught. I guess this shouldn’t be any surprise given that some adults regularly engage in calling one another unsavory names directly, and a good number of others do so behind the person’s back.

  • Parenting Page: Getting Outed

    July 15, 2014 at 6:00 am

    Kids learn a lot of things at school and summer camps. Not necessarily the things you want them to learn. Oh, I don’t mean things they shouldn’t be doing kind of stuff… I mean, they learn information you may have been keeping from them…