The Underside Of MotherhoodMay 13, 2015 at 5:00 am
The pervasiveness of mother-guilt crosses cultures and religions. There is definitely a strong societal pressure for mothers to emote how much they love being a mom, no matter how difficult it is at times. A dad can say, “Little Johnny is in a tantrum phase and driving me insane!” without following up with, “But I love being a dad.” But if a mother says that parenting can be awful and leaves it at that, she risks negative judgement. Yet we would probably all do better and be better if we were authentic, because authenticity creates loving support. I declare it is healthier to be loud and proud about the complexities of motherhood, which can bring the highest highs and the lowest lows. We should talk about the ways in which motherhood enriched us and depleted us, the pros
Parenting Page: Vacationing with ChildrenMarch 12, 2015 at 5:00 am
Each year we enter spring, the time for spring break vacation and for planning summer vacations. Finding a family vacation that works for everyone isn’t always easy. A child adds a whole new aspect to vacationing. Now you have people of vastly different ages – adults and children – trying to enjoy the same vacation. Our first vacation alone with Page (i.e., without Peter’s mother) was when Page was about a year and a half old. We went to the beach, and were soon staring at each other exhausted, saying, “How is this a vacation?” Awake at 6am after a previous of day of entertaining a child all day at the beach with all of the accompanying paraphernalia of beach toys, diaper bag, and snacks that come with a child, it seemed like work and not relaxation! Gone were the lazy beach days drinking various alcohol-infused drinks with umbrellas, and leisurely strolls along the shore.
Parenting Page: Navigating Terrible Tween TVJanuary 22, 2015 at 10:05 am
Finding appropriate television shows for tweens to watch was a challenge for me. When Page was a child, she was allowed to watch the Disney channel, and all was well with the world. The shows geared toward the preschool to about 8 to 10-year-old crowd were great. Funny, interesting, and taught life lessons and skills such as math, geography, etc. in a fun way. When Page outgrew those, she started watching the Disney channel shows and other channels geared toward tweens and early teens. In my opinion, these shows were awful! Primarily because the kids were all mouthy. They had horrible attitudes and were just not nice. Very sassy, disrespectful, rude kids
Parenting Page: Being ThankfulNovember 25, 2014 at 5:00 am
Recently I was at a business retreat where the question was raised about how we are teaching our children about money. I don’t think I have a good answer. As parents we all struggle with how to give children an appreciation for money. “Money doesn’t grow on trees,” my parents used to tell me. “You have to work for what you get in life.” “Waste not, want not.” “Be thankful.” We have an entire holiday focused on being thankful!
Parenting Page: (Little) Kids Say The Strangest ThingsSeptember 23, 2014 at 5:00 am
Young children are not exactly the best reporters of events, as they at times mix reality and fantasy, miss the bigger picture, or say things we really can never figure out where they ever came up with.
Parenting Page: Navigating Name CallingAugust 14, 2014 at 6:00 am
I don’t recall at what age Page and her friends started calling one another names, and even though name-calling was pretty rare among she and her friends, like many life lessons “no name calling” had to be taught and re-taught. I guess this shouldn’t be any surprise given that some adults regularly engage in calling one another unsavory names directly, and a good number of others do so behind the person’s back.
Parenting Page: Getting OutedJuly 15, 2014 at 6:00 am
Kids learn a lot of things at school and summer camps. Not necessarily the things you want them to learn. Oh, I don’t mean things they shouldn’t be doing kind of stuff… I mean, they learn information you may have been keeping from them…
Parenting Page: Verbal Skills As A Parent-Control ToolJune 16, 2014 at 9:28 am
Great verbal skills are a good thing, right? Well, mostly. Until you realize your child can run circles around you in their chase to get what they want. Pair verbal skills with persistence and the person is pretty powerful. Add to that the parents of our generation who have been socialized to listen intently to their children, and the child may as well be the ruler of the world… well, or at least your world and theirs.
Parenting Page: Pretending To Be Asleep (And Other Avoidance Tactics)May 9, 2014 at 6:00 am
If you’re a parent, you know you’ve done it. Oh, you’ve done it many times over many years, most likely. You have shamelessly pretended to be asleep so either 1) your spouse would go tend to the child, or 2) your child would go away and leave you alone. Breathe easy; you are not alone. We spend endless hours, often over many years, dreaming and talking about how wonderful life will be once we have children… then we spend much energy trying to avoid childcare.
Parenting Page: Easter at the White HouseApril 18, 2014 at 6:00 am
Easter was the first holiday to follow Page learning that there was no Santa. Which, as you know, once the Santa-talk happens the whole house of cards comes tumbling down… no Easter Bunny, no Tooth Fairy, etc. Mostly she was OK about it, but she did wonder aloud how holidays could still be fun anymore.